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the will to endure

in the face of a difficult circumstance, you have two choices; to endure it or be succumbed by it. hopefully the latter will not be your choice. throughout life, all of us will experience deep pain and suffering. no matter if it's cancer, heartbreak, the lost of a job or a loved one, the pain can seem crippling and even on some levels, paralyzing.

the deeper the pain, the greater the lesson. one thing i have learned to do is to ask my difficult situation what have you come to teach me? what can i learn from this? the only way out of pain is through it. no one can experience your hurt for you. it's personal. this is your moment to evolve.

the will to endure is not something you have to muscle up the strength to have, it's there already. our souls are built on strength. it's the humanity that you find in the eyes of a hungry child in Botswana or in the resolve of an Alzheimer's patient in Kansas.

the will to endure is the choice you make when you declare that you will be triumphant in your struggle. it is the essence of faith multiplied. no matter what your religious beliefs are or what name you choose to call God by, the source of all things is connected to your will to endure.

i am reminded of my mother who lost her battle with breast cancer almost a decade ago. despite the unbelievable pain she went through, she was determined to endure. my mother taught me a lot about endurance. she was the strongest person i have ever known. she may not have survived, but she did endure.

no matter what you are going through right now, you must endure. weep all you need to, for joy will come in the morning. believe that.

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